Did Alec / DallasSingleDad Die? Yeah I thought that would get some attention. Sort of, since Alec was only in my head to begin with. So the real me is back. I am DallasSingleDad. After taking some time out to figure out where this thing was going for the last six months I’m letting him DIE!
Lets redo that About me thing. My name is Steve Ruiz and everything about me was true. How I felt, what I shared. All Of it. Except the name Alec and the names of my kids. Its really not that big of a deal. Why I stopped for so long is a drastically different and more interesting story.
Back in October I was at the tail end of a custody dispute. This was a topic I really never discussed publicly. I got nervous about being so public with what my family was doing and how it might impact my case. I already had primary custody and didn’t want to risk that by spoon feeding my day to day adventures to my childrens’ mom/attorney. As with all custody battles, our inner fight or flight responses comes out and in this case I went to ground and hid. I felt like a coward. We all hear the stories of deceit, posturing, setting boundaries and utter havoc that level of emotion can cause to your life and I just weathered that storm hoping the truth would reveal itself. I did help that happen of course.
This May, a full year and a half later, the truth was everywhere and revealed itself. I was given sole custody of my children.
Now that we are done with that mess, I finally feel like sharing again. While I’m not going to make anyone look bad, you can certainly look forward to hearing some of the “challenges” I have faced as a Dad on this side of the custody fence! Some are funny now that I think back. Others yank on the heart strings. MOST are downright hilarious. Here’s one of those great moments that I didn’t share but is from my Girlfriend’s perspective (DallasSingleMom) on “When his Ex wants to reconcile”. ENJOY!